We are T-1 week and 2 days until we move out of our old space and into our new space. Frankly, a little close for comfort, all things considered. It’s hard for me to even type that to realize how down to the wire we are.
So I sit here with my word of the year, “FAITH”, and I’m leaning in, so much so that it feels like I fell off my chair!
I don’t have a ton of time for a long update, but I will say a few things I’ve learned in the past two weeks.
1) Pressure is an important team member when it comes to successful project management. I can be more relaxed than helpful sometimes when it comes to getting things done and moving along. In this process I’ve learned that it’s important to put deadlines out there if you want to get others to work for you in a timely manner. You have to make follow-up calls. You are not being annoying you are just advocating for yourself and if you don’t, nobody will. That said, I need to follow up with one of our custom builders. He came out on Sunday to scope out the space, I sent a text to thank him on Sunday, I checked in via email on Monday. I gave him today to call me back (in my mind) (he didn’t) and now I will have to call today. This is not being pushy, this is just part of the way communication can fall in the industry, especially when you are running on a tight deadline.
2) When growing, prepare to contract about the same amount as you expand. We see the tree’s branches and trunks but do not see the roots going in the other direction. A friend of mine who runs Healing Elements, an amazing wellness center in MN, is the one who reminded me of this concept as I was lamenting about how challenging this whole period of growth has been. She said before great brilliance there must be chaos. There is truth here. If you want the rainbow you have to put up with the rain. There is a yin to the yang. As I’ve been working on the biggest expansion of my life since having children, I am also facing hurdle after hurdle after hurdle. It’s not even worth my time to repeat the circles I’ve been spinning. What’s important to highlight is that this work I’m putting in is polishing me and making me a better person, healer, business woman, partner, friend and mother, even though it is not always pleasant. I tell myself this on especially grueling days.
3) Moving is more of a process than it is a day. I think we always think of the date as the focal point, the target. Think of a baby’s due date. It’s key to have a day/deadline in handy otherwise there is no incentive to keep moving (importance highlighted above). But the reality is the day we move in is just the first day of the rest of our life. You know what I mean? That June 1st is just the beginning for us. It’s not some unveiling of perfection. We won’t have it figured out by that day. We need to get into the space and work there to really get to know it. To understand what it is asking for and what more it needs to be “complete”. And what does “complete” mean anyway? What I hope for June 1st is the bare essentials (floors in, lights working, heat/air functioning and a clean environment + you practicing in the space with us!). What would be above the essentials that would be nice to have include the front desk completed, paint on the walls with murals to boot, prop storage built. There are some more fun projects around the corner as well, but you will just have to come visit to see what is in store :) Some of them may take a year to unfold, but I’m okay with that.
4) Ask for help, but know what you need when you ask and trust your intuition…sounds basic but not always so straightforward! Being a person who is “connector” and also very open to asking for help, I have no shortage of options of talented and gifted people in my life to bring into this project. I feel grateful and lucky in this regard. However, just because you got it doesn’t mean you flaunt it! One of the most challenging aspects of this work has been finding the balance between when to call in for help and when to hold off and slow down the pace and trust the right person will be revealed in time. Even though I have people at the ready to bring some projects to life, does not mean the timing is right or the energy is there. (For example I still need to have capacity to give people direction and for that, I am the one pinched right now for capacity). Patience has been key, coming full circle to the word FAITH. I’ve had to retract my enthusiasm more than once, offering people a job to do and then having to go in another direction. In general people have been open to the nature of the beast, but this part of the game has been hard for me, and as a result I am now noticing how quickly I tend to jump toward asking for help and going outside myself rather than just pausing and checking in with my own senses first. Those initial reactions are gold. The trick is to catch them before the brain hops into FOMO.
5) Progress is not linear. This is one that is not news to any of us, but it’s been especially clear to me. I am in awe of how this world came together. When you think about the Big Bang Theory it was moving from nothing to everything. In a way this is what it feels like every day I work on this soft launch of our space. From the bird’s eye or a social media lens, everything looks like it moves in a progressive fashion, but the reality is there are so many working parts of the puzzle. I constantly have to stop and ask myself what came first the chicken or the egg? and there is not always a clear answer. For example, we are not only moving locations but we are also changing our name with this move and in a way shifting identities as a business…no small task. I was hoping to tell you more of the details and share our name and story behind it a bit today, but it occurred to me last night that I never received confirmation from the Secretary of State that we even got the business name. This is always the best news to take in before bed especially after you’ve already chatted with 4 techy friends to help you get the new website set up (that you already bought the URL for) and after your graphic designer has made the first mock ups of logos! NOT. And so I sit here and wait and breathe and let go. Because at this point I cannot control the balls I set into motion. I must wait to hear back from the state to see if we have a green light or if perhaps the reason I haven’t heard back is because it isn’t going to be processed. (please exit worst case scenario thinking).
Well, that seems to be a wrap for now. I’m off to my weekly self-care appointment with my therapist and then off to teach the first of a Mindfulness Series at a local bank for worksite wellness. The floors are coming in today (should have started around 8am), so I will have to stop by later and share more about our progress there. They will be done by Friday so thereafter we start slowly moving the things we have into the space :)
Thanks always for reading and your support!